Last week we went over what we do with hurts (emotional needs not met or taken from us). If we don’t get professional help 4 different types of things happen to us. Sometimes we go inward and blame ourselves. This leads to depression, anxiety and other destructive tendencies. Another outlet is toward others. Rage, anger, blaming, controlling behavior are some symptoms of that. Beyond those two we sometimes fall into a self medication to take the pain away. Addictions of all types as well as escaping into work or accomplishments are characteristics of this. Lastly, and perhaps the least method to detect is relationship addiction. We lose ourselves into others.
All prominent types of professional counseling have their strengths and places in helping others. However, they each share the common deficiency of not healing the original hurt. They manage the hurt, learn from the hurt or even sometimes blame the patient for the hurt. However, the only way to heal the hurt is through a most very misunderstood process. Comfort. By having someone who you love and trust join you in your hurt, comfort is attached to your pain. Romans 12:15 says that we are to, “Rejoice with those who rejoice, mourn with those who mourn.” Jesus did this with Mary after her brother Lazarus had died. “Jesus wept” is the shortest and perhaps most overlooked verse in the bible. Mary will never be able to tell the story of that day without remembering Jesus crying WITH her.
This week we will go back and look at the first place hurt goes, anger. How does anger from a previous hurt impact us today? How can comfort keep that from happening and how have other attempts to deal with that hurt not helped?
Christmas is coming so we will probably spend a good bit of time talking about the food, family, fun, festivities, and failures of our Christmas’ past and present.