Episode 170

Encouragement

September 7, 2022

ep. 169

SHOW NOTES

Welcome everyone and pull up a seat at the table. It’s Lunchtime in Rome. Tonight is episode 170 entitled “Encouragement”. When you are completing a task does it feel good to know that others believe that you can get it done? Do you find yourself telling others that they can do it? Do you get a boost when someone checks in and asks you how a project is going? If you’ve answered yes to any or all of these you probably have a high need for encouragement. We’re talking about that emotional need at The Table tonight!

Pull up a seat at the table and join us!

Encouragement

  • What is it? – Urging another to persist and persevere toward a goal; stimulating toward love and good deeds, particularly when someone is weary. “You can do it!”.
  • What causes it?
    • Having it met constantly as a child
    • NOT having it met as a child
  • How is it different than support?
    • Encouragement is saying, “You can do it!”
    • Support is saying, “Let me help you do it.”
  • How is it met?
    • Verbally
      • Words believing in one’s ability to achieve.
      • Engaging in general conversation about one’s efforts to achieve.
      • Asking questions about how one’s efforts to achieve (think the opposite when someone says “Don’t encourage them”) is going.
      • Posting about their efforts on social media
      • Talking about it to others that they know
    • Actions – “supporting” ones efforts – participating in but not necessarily “helping” them achieve something
      • Financially
      • Volunteering WHEN ASKED
      • Promotion or spreading the word positively
  • How is it not met?
    •  Not believing in someone or casting doubt upon their efforts
    • Actively DIScouraging one’s efforts (a million examples)
    • Generally dismissing someone and their abilities
    • Fear to bring up the status of the effort and thus not talking about it
  • How do we “steal” it?
    • Asking if people believe in our efforts
    • Always talking about our efforts/dominating conversations
    • As always, giving it to others
    • Telling others that we don’t believe that we can do it
  • When we do not receive encouragement, where does it go?
    • Fear  – Feeling like no one believes in us
    • Guilt – Assuming that we don’t encourage others and thus we don’t receive it
    • Self Condemnation
      • The feeling that we can’t achieve what we have set out to do
      • The feeling that we aren’t important enough to be encouraged
      • The feeling that other things we have done wrong outweigh what we are trying to do and thus we don’t deserve encouragement
    • Anger – we begin to cut ourselves off from others in retaliation and build relationships with those who will entertain our efforts

THE CREW

Jay Mitlo

Jay Mitlo

Brian Herr

Brian Herr

Eric Hammond

Eric Hammond

Chris Davidson

Chris Davidson

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