Relational Needs Questionnaire

While we all have the same relational needs, the priority of those needs is different for each person. Your greatest need may be for affection, while your partner’s greatest need maybe security. One child may have an acute need for comfort, but another sibling’s greatest need may be encouragement.

Appreciation may be at the top of the list for your next door neighbor, while your tennis buddy needs approval more than anything else.

An important aspect of learning to love others is taking the time to know them and to discover what their priority needs are. This questionnaire will help you assess your most important relational needs. Answer the questions, then score the questionnaire to identify which needs you perceived as most important. Have family members, friends, and ministry team members complete the questionnaire and then discuss the results.

(For a downloadable version, click here. To be a guest on our show, you must submit this to us, either by filling in the form below or scanning a copy and emailing the results back to us.)